Dear Birth Mom,
As we write this letter, it is hard for us to find words to express our deep feelings for you. You must be going through a lot right now and thank you for your devotion as a mother. We know that it is because of the true concern you feel for your unborn child that you even thought about adoption. We pray for you often and know that you will be led to us, like we have been to you.
Our hearts truly ache for the decisions that you are making at this point in your life. We may not fully understand what you are going through, but we already love you for who you are. We hope that even as you read these words, you will feel that love we have for you. Know that we want the best for you as well as the child you carry. We are so excited to experience this together! We recognize that you are considering making a great sacrifice. Your baby is blessed because you are trying to make the best decisions for his/her future.
We thought about adoption after we had our two boys because Becky had two miscarriages. Then Becky had slight complications after her last pregnancy with our girl. We would like to still have more children and we have felt adoption is the road we should take for bringing another child into our home.
We both grew up with siblings and recognize how they have made our lives so much more enjoyable. We have felt a strong support from all of them. As we have prepared for adoption throughout our marriage we have felt a special love for all of the children around us. Our children have found strength from each other and we believe it has impacted their life for the better because of having each other. Our new baby will benefit so much from having siblings who support her and are there for her through out his/her life.
We appreciate that this is a very difficult time for you. We want to let you know that we support any decision you may have about how open you want to be about your correspondence with us and your child. We would hope for an open adoption relationship, because we respect your wishes for correspondence. We feel it is important to share pictures and letters with you on how she is doing through out his/her life. May God bless you and guide you at this difficult time. We want you to know our respect for you is real.
We are a family who likes to have fun and explore new things. In our family we are each different and have unique personalities that add to the joy that surrounds us. Our oldest boy loves to draw any chance he gets. He loves school and absorbs information so quickly. He loves to play with his younger siblings and cherishes time with his parents too. He loves to read and to be read to. He enjoys playing with his Lego’s, riding his bike, playing out in our back yard, taking karate, soccer, and scouts.
Our second child is very into sports. He likes to run around, throw the ball, and wrestle with daddy (our children have special time with daddy each night before bed; it usually ends up to be wrestling). He is reading very well. It is amazing how fast kids pick up on things when they have older siblings to be the example. He also enjoys playing with his friends and playing soccer every year.
Our daughter loves to be read to and to be shown new things. She enjoys playing with toys (especially dolls and her kitchen set), and she enjoys being outside and going on walks. She loves her mommy of course, but just melts when she is around her daddy. She is doing really well in preschool and milks information like a sponge.
Our children are so excited to be able to adopt as well. They will cherish him/her, as they do each other. They will protect your child and add to the enjoyment of life with us.
Wes grew up on a dairy farm, which has taught him how to work hard. He also grew up playing sports like football and basketball. Wes has his Bachelor’s degree in Computer Animation. He is a great artist, loves computers, and enjoys going snowboarding when he gets the chance. He works from home, so he is actively involved in our lives. Wes is a loving father and finds great joy in his wife and children. He takes good care of us. Wes “works out” in our weight room almost every morning and enjoys staying healthy. He has had many callings in the church, but mostly in Young Men’s. He is a great teacher of youth. The boys really look up to him with respect.
Becky is a stay-at-home mom who is all about her kids. She loves to cook. We make it a priority to eat our meals together. Becky always makes sure we get the nutrition we need. She keeps the house clean and makes sure the children are loved, nourished, and content. She is actively involved with our children and loves them immensely. She is very athletic and makes time to play church sports: Volleyball, dodge ball, etc. Becky grew up playing soccer and loved it! She, like Wes, takes great pride in being healthy. She also enjoys going snowboarding with Wes. Becky teaches Preschool from home in the mornings three days a week. She says, “It is so fun teaching those little ones. It is so rewarding to see their progression as the year goes on.” Our kids benefit greatly from having the preschool in our home. We believe their academic and social development progresses even faster than it would have otherwise.
Wes, “I was captivated by Becky’s beauty the first time we met. What immediately stood out to me is her genuine care for others. She was the type of person that always cared how others were feeling and tried to help them. I get compliments everywhere I go about how lucky I am and I just smile and say, “I know”. Becky uses her talents to bless the lives of our children, her preschool children, and many others she comes in contact with. I am so grateful to have her in my life.”
Becky, “Wes and I met in College. My Dad is a professor at the same college we attended, so Wes was a little intimidated at first. Which I thought was so funny. We clicked right from the beginning. I always wondered “how can you know that someone is meant for you?” But, when I met Wes, I just knew it. He is such a cool guy. He has country boy charm and manners; he is fun and great to talk with. He has great work ethic and loves children.”
We as a couple are very close and have a great trusting relationship. We spend a lot of time with each other and cherish the special time we get. After we put the kids to bed each night we spend alone time together for a few hours. It is a cherished time to unwind and just be together. We have been through a lot and feel that each experience makes us stronger and closer as a couple.
Our children are lucky enough to see their grandparents and extended family often. We live within a few hours drive of most of them. Our new son/daughter will definitely be greatly loved by all of our family!
Our neighborhood and community are a dream. The people are kind and genuinely care about each other. There are a lot of children and stay-at-home moms on our street. Our children will always have plenty of friends to play with and our new adopted daughter will have support from the families around us. There are quite a few adopted children in our area. We feel we have been led here for a reason. We chose to live here out of inspiration. We can basically live anywhere we want (that has high speed internet), because Wes works from home. We love the area we live in and hope you know that our new baby will have a stable home, family and neighborhood environment. We will take such good care of him/her!
Our schools are great and small enough that the children will get a great education and have opportunities that they might not otherwise have. We are actively involved in teaching our children and making sure they learn the things necessary that will help them become the best individuals that they can be. We have both gone to college and believe our children will benefit from going to college as well. We are regularly reading to our children and teaching the oldest two how to read. We believe that if we show our children a love for learning, then they will develop that trait (as we have already seen them do).
We go to church regularly and we have found great peace in knowing that Heavenly Father has a plan for each of us. We feel that he has guided us to adoption and that there is a baby that will be sent to us, because he/she is meant to be in our family and experience the things that our family has to offer him/her.
As we raise your child it will never be a secret that he/she is adopted. We will love and cherish your child just as we do our other kids. We will tell him/her of your great sacrifice and that you wanted him/her to have a great life with us. We will let her know of Heavenly Fathers plan for us and that He sent her to us like our other children were sent to us, just through another woman who was courageous and selfless.
There aren’t words to describe how thankful we are to you for your great sacrifice, if it weren’t for women like you, we wouldn’t be able to experience the miracles of adoption. We hope you find the peace you are looking for through placing your baby with us. Your child will have a great life with us and we will love her so much!
With great appreciation and support,
Wes & Becky
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